Funke Adejumo, wife of the founder of Agape Christian Ministries, Felix Adejumo, has advised married men against placing excessive pressure on themselves in an attempt to satisfy every desire of their wives.
Speaking during the Recharge Conference in Lagos, the marriage counsellor said husbands should understand that it is impossible for any man to completely please a woman at all times.
According to her, women naturally have evolving preferences and expectations, making it unrealistic for men to believe they can meet every single one.
Adejumo referred to the growing trend of women altering their physical appearance, arguing that if many women still seek changes to the way they naturally look, it shows that the desire for improvement is part of human nature.
While encouraging men to remain loving, responsible and committed in their marriages, she cautioned them against wearing themselves out in a bid to fulfil every expectation their wives may have.
She urged husbands to do their best in their roles as partners but stressed that they should not sacrifice their wellbeing by trying to achieve an impossible standard of perfection in marriage.
She said: “To all married men, do everything, but don’t kill yourself trying to please a woman. I’m a woman speaking to you, and there is nobody who can please a woman.”
She continued: “I’m not saying don’t be responsible, but please don’t kill yourself. God gave us natural nails, we cut them and put on artificial ones. He gave us natural hair, we remove it and wear wigs. If God cannot please us completely, who are you to think you can? Do your best, but don’t kill yourself.”
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She said:“That’s why I tell women not to have only money that’s sexually transmitted. Have your money, and the one your husband gives will be extra. Who said you can’t support your husband with a Prado?”
She added: “When my husband turned 60, I gave him 61 gifts. Your life should not be dependent on when ‘daddy comes.’ We have left that era.”