Popular Nigerian choreographer and dancer Kafayat Shafau, popularly known as Kaffy, has spoken about the challenges of dating as a single mum.
While speaking as a guest on popular podcast, The Honest Bunch, Kaffy, who is divorced from her ex-husband, Joseph Ameh, said a man once looked at her and said he cannot be in a relationship with her because she has two children.
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‘’I have had someone tell me because I am a single mother, he cannot think about dating me because I have two children.’What makes you think a woman who has been divorced is not even the better candidate if she has worked on herself? What is the guarantee that two single people today are not going to be divorced people tomorrow? So why are people feeling like ‘No I need to marry him fresh, and I need to marry her fresh?’ Both of you are going into the same data that the world has computed for you that over 70% of marriages crash. You are part of the 70%.” she said.
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Kaffy also spoke about love and the “butterfly” effect.
‘’Do you know that a lot of butterflies in the tummy is a trauma response? Real love brings peace, not butterflies. Real love is not supposed to make you anxious.”