Foremost Nigerian media personality, Toke Makinwa, thinks that relationships between a man and a woman would always be transactional.
According to the entertainment polymath, the relationship between a man and a woman would always contain elements of exchange. She went on to state that this transaction kicked off as far back as biblical times.
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Speaking during a conversation with Ebuka Obi-Uchendu and Toolz, Toke said, “I think from time immemorial, a relationship between a man and a woman has always been transactional. Right from the Garden of Eden, right from our parents’ days.”
She explained that women have traditionally found subtle ways to persuade their partners before making requests.
“A woman will feel like she wants to ask her husband for something, she knows how to throw on the nicest underwear, make his best meal. Before your mom will present your dad with the list of the house, she will find a way, ‘Your favourite food has been made. Should I rub your leg?’ and then she will now say, ‘You see that thing I asked you for? You’ve not done it,’” she said.
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While admitting that social media has amplified the trend, Makinwa insisted the practice itself is not new.
She, however, blamed many modern men for reducing relationships to financial transactions.
“The degree at which it’s happening now, I would blame the men, sometimes that’s all men have to offer,” she said, drawing support from Toolz.
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Expanding on her point, Makinwa said many men approach women with money instead of genuine conversation.
“Most Nigerian girls meet a Yahoo boy who just blew, and as he sees her, first thing he’s offering her is what she has never seen before. They don’t even want to get to know you or ask you questions.”
Sharing a personal experience, she added, “I’ve heard the strangest things that men have offered me. Men will feel like that’s what they need to show you to talk to you. And sometimes, I really just want to get to know you. Sometimes I think you’re a great guy.”
When Ebuka suggested women started demanding money first, Makinwa disagreed, insisting, “We’re saying the same thing, it’s because the men started.”